21 July 2015

When it comes to choosing men, especially online, are you only looking for men who are "your type"?

Do you contact them, hoping they will notice you and write back? Are you so disappointed when they don't?
Who does contact you? Is it the men you don't want?
Who really is that man you imagine yourself with? One with a good looking profile picture?
Or is he a total package, a sum of everything he has to offer to your relationship?

• Will he bring you soup when you're sick?
• Will he stop at the shops and get you what you need, even if it is a bit out of the way?
• Will he bring you flowers and say, "I love you," even when it's not your birthday?
• Will he rearrange his schedule to drive you to the airport so you don't have to hoist that suitcase out of your car or worry about parking before your trip?
• When you've had a hard day, will he rub your back or bring you a glass of wine and give you a much-needed hug?
• Will he take your rubbish bins out so you don't have to?
• Will he get up and do the dishes after dinner?
• Most importantly, will he look in your eyes like you are the best thing that ever happened to him?

As we age, we are going to want more in a partner than just his looks, especially in our later years.
Someone to take care of you, even if he isn’t the most handsome man on the block.
A man that may get passed over by lots of women on dating sites if going on looks alone.

It may be kindness and love he radiates from within once you get to know him.
Looks are nice. They are.
But next time you are reading those online profiles, before you move on to the next man, really read what that man is saying.
If he writes that he's kind, nice, loves his animals and his kids, he's worth checking out -- even if he's not the most handsome guy on the page he may be a man with a wonderful heart.

More importantly, his looks could very well grow on you.